Tuesday, November 3, 2009

Mother to my Brothers

What's your birth order? Were you a first born, middle child, youngest or only child? I was a first born. I have a younger brother Ben and a much younger brother named Sam. Below is a photo of us. I think I was around 13 when this was taken.

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My mom and I were on a walk a few days ago and she told me that she had been talking to Ben about what a good mother I am (isn't that sweet?) and Ben said that I was a good mother to him (also sweet). Now don't get me wrong, my mother was an awesome mother to all of her kids. I just became a second mother to both of my brothers.

I think being the first born has really impacted my personality. Honestly I see its influences on a daily basis, from the way that I take charge (or ways that I can be bossy) to how at ease I feel with caring for a newborn.

Do you think birth order has impacted your personality? If so, how?

13 comments:

Elizabeth said...

I'm an only child, and I think that's why I have so much inner monologue :)

And occasionally like to be the center of attention...

Stacy said...

Also an only, although I am lucky enough to now have three stepsisters. I think my independence is in large part to being an only.... well, and losing a parent young.

Emily said...

I'm an only child. I love being around people, but I am also very comfortable just being alone. I often wonder what it would be like to have a sibling though!

Chrissy said...

I am the oldest too... When my brother was little and even up until he was taken from us, he confided in me... told me his most personal fears, thoughts... We were very close... and there were times I could have punched him for being obnoxious ... also being the oldest I wasn't too thrilled at being 'the example'... I always wanted someone older so that the responsibility wasn't put on me so much.

Annie said...

You look just like yourself! :-) Nice photo. I'm an only child and sometimes I go crazy living with a talkative man and two loud kids. So I enjoy solitude but I'm also very social. I don't think that upbringing, siblings and other environmental factors affect the child's basic personality a lot - unless the conditions are really hard or odd.

AKM said...

I'm the oldest of two, but there are nine years between us, which makes us both function as only and/or oldest children. My brother and I are both focused, dominant and stubborn...and we sometimes butt heads because of this. ;-) I was his second mother as well and we're best friends. Little brothers rock!

Anonymous said...

Did youknow that you were wearing Grandpa George's shirt in that picture.

Widge said...

Totally. I'm the oldest of 5 girls. next one down from me is 5 years younger and the last one is 15 years younger (and only 4 years older than my son!)

I felt pretty comfortable with my own babies because of this. I'd had experience changing nappies and bathing etc...i can't imagine what it must be like for first time mums who have never experienced sometimes even holding a baby!!...must be a bit nerve racking!

Victoria said...

I am the oldest of 5 and my parents both worked. Which left me in charge of the home and 5 tiny siblings for most of my young life. I remember giving my brother a bath when I was five and he was one year old! On one hand, all that experience and responsibility was great training for motherhood, taking charge, being bossy(!), on the other hand, I often feel I missed my own childhood...so, I'm making up for it now!
P.S...Even now, I do like being the oldest!

elizabeth said...

funny. everyone who commented is an oldest or an only.

i am an oldest (of 4).

i wonder how many bloggers are oldests, or as Kevin Lemen says "super-oldests" (that's onlys). you should read his book about oldest children - it's really eye-opening - it put a lot of things into words for me and helped me explain myself to my husband (a youngest of 4).

i think birth order has a pretty big impact on personality and how we do things.

i did lots of taking care of my younger siblings - lots of "mothering" that led to lots of babysitting that led to me being pretty comfortable taking care of my first baby, too. :)

p.s. your picture from your last post - you are so pretty!
and i love your goals for the day. :) "getting dressed before 10 in something cute" - that's my goal for today, too!

the dwellers said...

I'm the oldest too. Makes me sensitive to giving my daughter responsibilities, but not too much.

Oh and, I think I had that same shirt... green satin? The 80's were great :)

mrs boo radley said...

Oldest! My brother is almost 3 years younger than I am. Our sister was born right after my first year of high school. So she was like my baby! It was SO fun to dress her up and take her places. It's interesting...my brother went for years being the "baby" of the family, and then our sister came along so he got to take the role as middle child...and my sister, because she is so much younger than us, is kind of like an only child and a baby all in one. I LOVE birth order discussion. Care if I have one on my blog? Totally going to be a copycat and ask the questions you did. If that's okay with you, of course. :) I'm definitely a people-pleaser, a perfectionist in many aspects, competitive (although I have trouble admitting it), and stubborn in some ways too. Oh, and I'm married to an ultra laid-back Zen baby-of-the-family-but-by-12-years-so-more-like-an-"only" husband. He was a surprise in his family just like my sister was in ours!

Thea said...

Yes, I'm the oldest one of 4 too and have always been quite bossy. Probably because we were often left at home alone and I was "in charge". This really meant that I would get the blame for anything that went wrong.

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