Now I think when it comes to the health and well-being of others I am very cautious, ridiculously so. I worry that others will injure themselves or whatever. So I began to think, perhaps I am a wader, but that doesn't really ring true for me. I am a first born. I like to
When I only have to consider myself I am always a jumper. I am actually afraid of heights because I truly fear that I will lose control of myself and fling myself over the edge---pretty sure I won't though. Once I have made up my mind to do something I do it. Come what may....(I am thinking about the time I went in to get a pixie cut and left sobbing with a mullet). Jump in cold water, of course with full submersion. Move to a different state with no real job or plans, why not? Have our first child when one of us has been struggling to find work for a year, yep! I tend to just have faith that things will work out as they should and I go for it.
Eric, my wonderful husband, on the other hand is a wader. He prefers to get into water one tentative step at a time.He is organized. He is orderly in both thought and action. He is meticulous and thoughtful where I am occasionally erratic and tend to fly by the seat of my pants.
Back to Emily's post where she revealed that she is a wader and her husband is a jumper. I began to think about other happy couples that I know and I realized that every single one that I came up with was comprised of a jumper and a wader. Now as adults there are obviously going to be areas of crossover, but I think in general it is pretty easy to tag someone as a jumper or a wader. Do you find the same to be true?
So how does this revelation impact relationships? Well, I think perhaps it is like most successful relationships there is a bit of a balancing of the scales. For Eric and I this means that I sometimes push him outside of his comfort zone and he does the same for me. The gentle nudging over the years has, I believe, helped our personalities to evolve a bit. I think that I can now see the value in the wade sometimes and Eric can now see the same with the jump.
So I ask again, are you a jumper or a wader?