Tuesday, March 26, 2013
Mom Rant: Gender
Eric is infuriated by those commercials that show a wife taking care of business while the husband does something stupid. You know what I am talking about, the husband tries to give the dog a bath and then ends up spraying water and flinging mud as children and a dirty dog make messes. Enter the mother who saves the day with a roll of paper towels. He hates when people laugh knowingly in a way that suggests men are all bumbling idiots and women keep it all in order. I can't say that I am all that fond of it either. I get that when in a marriage the jobs often get divided and when one spouse enters territory that is not their normal turf stuff can happen, but it really isn't fair to suggest that the nonsense falls on the shoulders of men alone.
Lately Cordelia has been wanting to watch music videos on youtube. She has terrible taste, always wanting to watch Gangnam Style or Jedward (Elise is totally into them too). Yes, it is completely my fault for letting them watch them in the first place, but in my defense I had no idea that they'd even care. In watching the videos I became annoyed at the way women were being portrayed and objectified...cutting edge thoughts I tell you. Anyway, I wanted to find something to counteract that negativity and I typed in the search some phrase like strong women and came upon Beyonce's Girls Rule the World. I watched it and the whole premise is that women rule the world with seduction, or some intangible womanly power. UGH! At one point Beyonce crawls on the ground sexily as she sings something about raising a glass to the college grads. Huh?!? What is the message?
So it got me thinking about what message I want my girls to learn about gender. Obviously I probably shouldn't rely on TV or the internet to shed any light on the matter, unless I want to raise girls who think men are dummies who fall victim to their womanly ways. BLECK!
I guess mostly I am just ranting at this point, with no real focus. Where was I? Oh yeah, I wonder how I should approach gender issues with my girls. Do I try to empower them? Do I downplay gender altogether? Do I tell them that girls are better than boys?----No, I guess the best I can offer is to show these girls that men and women can do or be whatever they want, at least in this country, if they work to attain their goals. I hope that the relationship Eric and I share will show them that both genders are capable and that we are all bumbling idiots at times too.