Thursday, May 16, 2013
I am not sure when it starts, we're not there yet. I fear that it is soon to come. Right now Cordelia is confident (Elise probably is too, but when I asked her she said, "BAAAH"). When somebody gives Cordelia a compliment she believes and/or agrees with them. I am sure Elise will too.Why shouldn't they? Why would someone lie about brains, looks, personality, sense of humor, whatever? They are smart and funny and beautiful.
Oh if only I could preserve that feeling for my girls. I wish that we lived in a world that didn't make women feel as though they should shrug off compliments or belittle themselves or base their value on the jiggliness of their thighs. I for one am vaguely offended when I give someone a compliment that they shrug off. Compliments are gifts and they should be trusted and accepted. When does that change happen? When do girls start to view every compliment as suspect?
I am doing my part. I continue to work to silence that negative voice. Oddly I find it most difficult to silence when I am around other women. Ladies, we gotta stop this. You know what I am talking about right? You're out with a friend and she says something negative about herself. Instead of stopping your friend (you wouldn't let anybody else talk about her that way, why is it OK if she does?)you hop on the band wagon and say something negative about yourself. Why do we do that? That is a really dumb way of connecting with our gender. So please join me. Let's all knock it off, be kind to ourselves and cultivate our confidence (do it for the children---said in a quavering whisper).
and since this is vaguely related....
Posted by Maria Rose at Thursday, May 16, 2013