Last night I was writing back and forth with a friend about the subject of being vulnerable. I will spare you the details of our private conversation, but it left me thinking about the importance of sharing weakness.
We live in a strange society where we all try to do and be the best, to admit otherwise is almost like admitting failure. This is something I have long struggled with. Perhaps it stems from being a first born or maybe it is just my personality, but I have always had trouble letting myself begin. What I mean when I say that is that I never let myself be a beginner. I am getting better about this as I age, but it is still a challenge to just let myself be weak or terrible at something. Which is strange because if anything comes easily I pretty much abandon it as sort of, "Well, that's easy....moving on."
I see this in my daughters and I know that it is my job to show them that it is OK to be a beginner and not a master. There are so many missed opportunities when you won't let yourself be weak. When you see someone who is really good at something that is a great opportunity to learn, not an excuse to feel like a failure. I am constantly reminding myself of this fact and I am trying to turn my weaknesses into opportunity for growth.
Lately I have found myself in a position for sharing weakness and embracing opportunities to grow. I have been taking the advice, given to all artists, to "Say yes and then figure it out later." So I have been given a lot of crazy opportunities this year---interior design, logo design, event planning, etc. I have said yes to all of them and then I have been working it out on my own, but I would like to move beyond that on my own part and start looking to others.
Recently Eric had a meeting with an extremely talented and successful artist who gave him,and I by extension, some excellent career advice. We may never have learned this if Eric hadn't been willing to admit that he wanted to learn more.
So now I am ready, perhaps this is a delayed New Year's Resolution, and I want to share my weakness so that I may become stronger.