I have been pretty bummed out by Facebook lately. Have you? I have seen a lot of hate filled posts from people whom I know to be kind and loving. I have seen posts that are totally uninformed, racist, and do not even get me started on the posts about hunting season. Each time I see a post that makes me feel sad or angry my first impulse is to fire off an "educational" response. I hold back. I ask myself if that is kind or helpful...it never is.
I have a person whom I am "friends" with who has inadvertently and unknowingly become my personal litmus test. Every single post this person makes is aggravating in some form. Eric often tells me I should hide their posts. Instead I seek them out, willing myself to become a kinder person. I let myself feel the initial upset that comes with the post, but then I try to understand. I try to look with kindness at this person. Some days are more successful than others.
Compassion, kindness, empathy---all undervalued in our world. Often I find people looking down on those elements as being simple. I can assure you, as someone who is desperately trying to be kind, that there is nothing easy about the process. From the aggravated comments to outright harassment that color our lives it is a constant struggle. Some days it comes easily, forgiveness and understanding. Other days I tear into my own self and find myself to be sarcastic or rude with others, kindness is not simple.
What is simple? Passing along hate and uneducated nonsense. I am just trying to keep my head down and be kind.