My friends went back to the gym, but for some weird and kind of creepy reason I lingered, listening to the sisters talk as they primped their dyed hair and put on cool girl make-up. I was completely struck by their easy friendship with each other. They had a cool and witty banter and the fact that they both had their own hip chick looks made a deep impression on me. I felt like I was looking through a tiny window into the strange and mysterious world of sisters.
I think that is probably when I started to really watch sisters, to see what they were like. How did they relate to each other? I didn't necessarily feel as though I needed a sister or anything, it was more of a scientific study on my part. Whenever I would meet sisters I would watch their relationship. Were they close? Were they similar? Was there jealousy? The whole thing was a total mystery to me as I had two brothers and that was something entirely different.
So, now that I am on the brink of mothering two girls I realize that I am getting to watch that unique relationship develop under my watch and guidance. My deepest hope is to raise two girls who are extremely close to each other while still being secure and confident in themselves. Eric and I have decided that the girls will share a room for a good deal of their childhoods, giving them more personal space a bit later on. So I have been prepping the room for two girls even though the baby will be in our room for the first bit. I started with the closet space and just split it down the middle.
I have separated those things that are just for Cordelia. I set aside half of the baby clothes that I wore to pass on to her and the other half will belong to her sister. I set aside gifts and special handmade items that will remain special for Cordelia. I will do the same for the baby when she receives personal gifts. Mostly I am just trying to start them out feeling both special and individual.
I have a lot of theories about how to parent sisters....
but I am realizing that I have no real idea how to foster and nurture their relationship. I suppose much of it will be on their shoulders. Of course I assume that there will never be any jealousy or infighting.
I just find myself going to the closet and trying to figure out how to make this my first step into mothering sisters who love each other and have a lifelong friendship. Not that I am over-thinking this or anything, but do you have any wisdom or insight you care to share?